8 years ago today Dave and I got together!
We met nearly 9 years ago when I was in a bad place, he was extremely supportive and became my best friend. We could talk to each other about everything and be completely honest about everything! It wasn’t long until we moved in together, honestly, it was more of forcing him to move in with me, as he knew I wouldn’t be able to make ends meet. But, it was the best decision we could have made.
When we moved into that house we were given a new gift in life, our cat Mishi! She was abandoned by the previous owners, leaving her sleeping in the shed. We saw her every day and night at the back door, getting skinnier. We couldn’t leave her like that! And, thanks to Dave doing his bodybuilding back then, we had LOADS of tuna! So, her first meal with us was a nice place of tuna! I don’t think I’ve heard a cat purr as loud as she did lol! Unfortunately, we weren’t allowed cats in the property, so we made sure that the outdoor room ( like an outside porch) was comfy and warm enough for her. However, she had different plans, a couple of days later we found her sleeping on our bed, nice and comfy. Doing the cute stretch and looking at us with those eyes saying ” You are my new owners now!”. Before you think we just took a stray cat in, we did take her to the vets to find out if she was chipped and I did put our address on her collar in case, if she had a family, they could of see where she was. BUT… after living there for two years nobody claimed her and she was at home. By the time we had her for a year, I don’t think Dave and I could have lived without her. She’s our baby!
As soon as Dave and I moved in together life just went super fast! We both graduated from uni, he found an awesome job at the university, we moved two more times in Lincoln and then again into Nottingham, he managed to find an even better job, I graduated with my second uni degree and moved from retail to self-employed as a translator!
You hear a lot the saying of: “You are not a couple of you don’t argue and fight every now and again”, I call that bollocks! Dave and I have only argued once in the entire 8 years that we’ve been together, unfortunately, my fault. I was stupid and it was still the beginning of our relationship, and looking back at it I can’t believe I did what I did. Thank god Dave is the man he is, or I would have ruined the best years of my life! After that moment, I’ve been honest with him ever since, to the point that now I can’t lie to him, not even for Christmas presents or his birthday! And I’ve found that I’ve never been happier with that ability.
In my previous relationship, I had to lie, I had to hide things like meeting up with friends, or going to the shop. I worked multiple jobs and then stayed at home, so when I bought myself something it was always hidden. That’s if I could use my own money and not go into luxury holidays paid by me and my student grants. Yeah, it wasn’t the best of years, and I didn’t realise how bad it got until a friend of mine moved to the UK and I was forced not to go and see her. His reasoning, “She’s a bad influence and she wants to keep you away from me. I won’t let that happen”. Let’s just say, it didn’t take long until I realised that mum was right all along. Mothers are mostly right! Listen to your mum when it comes to people hahahaha BUT! if it wasn’t for all that I wouldn’t have met Dave. So I am extremely grateful for the life I had, so I can have the life I have now.
I must say, I have no idea how he can be so patient. I am a HAND FULL! All through the time we’ve been together I’ve gone in an out of jobs (mostly because they closed or made redundant), and because of him I could still follow my ways, I am able to have a choice in life and in what I want to be and become!
If it wasn’t for him, I wouldn’t be the owner of a house, I wouldn’t have completed my Modern Languages degree and I wouldn’t have everything that a woman wants. I think, if he didn’t have all his patience, I would have ended up back in Spain working at a supermarket or bar wasting my life without a degree (basically following the sheep). Dave pushes me to become a better person and definitely shows me how to be persistent with the goals I want to reach.
So what I want to say is: Happy anniversary my handsome man! I can’t wait to spend another 50 to 60 more years with you! I know it’s longer than a prison sentence, but… you are stuck with me! WHAHAHAHAHA (evil laugh).